Being born to the right parents.
This single coincidence tends to make more of a difference to a persons’ life than any other factor, including whatever efforts the person himself makes to try to improve his lot.
Who your parents happen to be has a tremendous impact on a huge range of things that shape just about everything in your life to a huge degree.
- It determines if you’re born in Sweden or in Somalia
- The genes they gave you determines whether you’ll be tall, intelligent and handsome or short, stupid and ugly.
- The genes also play a big role in whether or not you’ll be healthy, whether or not you’re likely to get a long list of diseases.
- If your parents are kind, compassionate and nurturing your start in life will be very different from if they’re cold, inconsiderate or abusive.
- The hobbies and interests they have in many cases have a lifelong influence on your own hobbies and interests.
- Their wealth and their income determines what material standard of living you’ll have for the first 20 – 25 years of your life, and in fact often for your entire life. (in most cases lazy sons of multimillionaires end up better off than hardworking daughters of slum-dwellers)
- They more or less entirely decide who is important in your life for your first 5 years. Such early formative relationships are very important for a child’s development.
- They determine what quality education you’ll get, this depends on their wealth, where they happen to live, and their priorities. You as a young child have low influence on all of this.
I’m not at all saying that it’s hopeless to get ahead in life if you had a bad start. What I’m saying is that having the right parents means getting to play life on “easy” mode, while having the wrong parents makes everything a whole lot more difficult.